A woman who gets an initial note from a man who talks about things he noticed in her profile and asks questions about her is going to consider this man in a favorable way.
It’s true that a couple can get to courtship much faster because of online dating because of how much is known ahead of time.
I hope this helps you to consider these concerns of yours in a clearer way.
Friendship is very possible to develop using an online dating site.
Even after moving to the phone and to meeting in person, continuing to write letters while you are apart is an age-old way to develop a deep friendship. The beginnings of a friendship that can lead to love can be realized through letter writing.
You have a concern that when people join a dating site, you have already jumped right over friendship and are starting into courtship. When someone is on a dating site, they see a lengthy profile of information which reveals all kinds of things that would take you months to find out about under other circumstances. The profile provides so much information that is helpful for avoiding wasting each other’s time. I am referring to things about what a person believes and how they live that belief.
I do believe friendship should come first in a relationship.
However, it seems to me that with online dating, the relationship is already more than a friendship. It is not a natural way to meet people, let alone become friends.
Had this information been known up front, there would not have been a 6 months and all the pain that follows from such a break up.
The profile also provides a wealth of information about the person that can be used to foster interesting and engaging conversation, especially making an initial conversation.
Too many people are using the dating site messaging system ineffectively and counter-productively.
They write inconsiderate messages that are short, choppy, and do not demonstrate that they read the person's profile.
Contrary to popular belief, platonic friendships between men and women exist.